More on Your Passion
People who are into research on passion, often come up with ideas that appear to be contradictory. Some say that following your passion does not necessarily lead to happiness. Seems like your search for the best home business is in jeopardy. However, such claims are just opinions, and not backed by research. Granted that they are expert opinions but still, they are just opinions.
After reading through these write-ups I got the sense that the arguments center on – trying to find and to follow your passion doesn’t lead to happiness. It’s like chasing after rainbows. It’s like saying that it probably doesn’t exist. On the other hand, the mainstream thought (which are backed by research actually) on passion as the driving force behind success and happiness is focused on actively working on getting involved in your passion. One argument says –“actively searching for your passion and following it is futile,” and the other says, “working actively on, and getting involved in your passion can lead to a sense of fulfillment and success.” As you can see, there is no ground for argument because one side is still searching and the other already has one.
Giving Up on Finding Your Passion?
Does this mean that if you’re still searching for that thing that you are passionate about you’d give up because it’s like chasing rainbows? Research shows that 85% of ordinary people actually have something that they are passionate about. These range from crocheting, to juggling, to gardening, to sports, and everything in between.
What hinders most people about finding their passion is the idea that the one thing that they are passionate about is probably “insignificant.” Nothing could be farther from the truth. That “insignificant” thing could be just the “it” that could give the spark to your existence. Your passion is your thing. Nobody has any say on that.
There’s probably some negative programming at work here. Those words ringing in your ears, “it’s a waste of time,” “we couldn’t afford the extra expense,” “it’s not gonna get you anywhere,” “focus on something more fruitful.” Baby boomers got these a lot. We grew up on hard times. But, you are now living in different times. You need a paradigm shift to get ahead.
You’re probably thinking, “I’m too old for paradigm shifts.” Or. “You couldn’t teach an old dog new tricks.” True. If you are really talking about an old dog who’s just too feeble to move anyway. The question is, are you? If you found yourself here it’s because you are actively looking for something to satisfy that restless quest that’s pushing you.
But, there’s no need to beat the issue to a pulp. If you are one of the fifteen percent who doesn’t have one thing you are passionate about you are obviously unique. You can work on something and be good at it. If you devote your time and energy on anything you could end up being passionate about it. The truth is, with your kind of mind-set everything you focused on could become your passion. You don’t need to look for that thing that you could be passionate about. You’ve probably heard of people who are simply passionate about life. You could be one of those.
Actually, if I understood this passion thing correctly, what you are passionate about is not the entirety of your whole existence. If it is a healthy preoccupation, it is just a part of your life, although when you are engaged in it you give it all you got. That’s passion. Take basketball players, for instance, basketball is obviously their passion. Long after they retired from active playing they are still involved in it. Look at Magic Johnson. Jerry West. But, they have families. They do other things. They run and managed foundations, and charities. If you devote your entire life to that one passion alone then it’s no longer healthy. It’s what positive psychologists call obsessive passion.
So, whether you are actively involved in your passion – to which you would obviously give the best that you got, or involved with something that’s significant and which captures your interest, just do it with passion! Ultimately, it amounts to the same thing.
All this makes me wonder, psychology and all those stuff aside, are most people (85%) really into their “passion” or, are they just naturally passionate in all that they do? Personally, I’d like to think that if you are that kind who is really serious about making things happen, you can be passionate about anything.
The Paradox of Hating What Is Necessary and Loving What Is Not
You’ve probably heard of people who hate their jobs but, they still do it because they need to feed their families. It’s obvious that working to feed your family is extremely necessary. But, you got this feeling of “you hate it so much, but you still got to do it.” And, then you look forward to days off, and calling in sick is just so much fun! Does this mean that working on a job is not your passion? Maybe. Or, perhaps, you just didn’t put enough passion into your job?
However, I think this phenomenon has nothing to do with passion. A lot could contribute to it. It could be the atmosphere in your place of work, low pay, the big bad boss. Or, you’re just not the working type of person.
Being passionate about something is, ultimately, a matter of choice. It is not some inherent something in your genetics or whatever. Life is, after all, made up of choices. People experience failures because at some point they made some wrong choices. They landed on bad job. They made the wrong friends. They went to New York instead of Los Angeles. Choices.
In the final analysis, whether it is your passion or it’s something other than that, but if you could work at it with the passion that it deserves – there’s no doubt about it – you can make it happen and you will find fulfillment in that. It’s a mistake to work for fulfillment. Work first to make things happen, then you will get fulfillment. You cannot put the horse before the cart.