“A warrior does not give up what he loves, he finds the love in what he does.” Socrates
It’s About Passion
A baby boomer is a hard worker. There’s no doubt about that. You powered the world economy in the 70’s, 80’s, 90’s and early 2k. But, now you are retired and you deserve a rewarding career that allows you the freedom to work as you choose.
But, at the same time, something that makes an income that gives you enough to have fun in your senior years. This will be your reward for all those years of hard work. You can now focus your work ethic toward having your own online home business. Hard work always brings results.
So, what is the best online home business for a hard-working baby boomer like you?
Most internet advice you’d get when you look for it would be – “something you are passionate about.” This makes sense, of course, because your passion drives you and if you make it your focus in your online home business you’d probably make good.
However, when people ask – “what are you passionate about?” you may not be forthcoming with a very quick answer. Your passion as a human person covers a whole range of activities to which such passion could be directed.
So, if you are “looking” for a passion in your life you’d probably be putting categories into which part of your existence you would point out and say “I’m passionate about that.” Is passion permanent? I think it depends a lot on the person.
Let’s say you were passionate about raising your kids. But, when they’re grown you could no longer be focused on it. Your children would probably tell you to back-off. In that sense, your passion may extend beyond raising them as grownups and into being there every time they need you, which is pretty much what parents should do.
Passion Engages You
Psychologists say that passions give a person a bit more reason to enjoy life. You’ve probably heard of people say about their passion as – “it’s my life.” Like, “basketball is my life,” or “cooking is my life.” According to Professor Robert Vallerand – noted authority on the subject – passion defines a person; it becomes a part of him or her, a part of his or her identity.
Thus, a person passionate about basketball may say, “I play basketball,” and not “I am a basketball player” (Vallerand, et al, 2012). Or, someone passionate about cooking may say “I cook,” and not “I am a cook.”
However, there are two sides to passion. According to Vallerand, there’s harmonious passion, and obsessive passion. Harmonious passion results in positive well-being, healthier life, and better performance. It is this passion which you are able to control.
Obsessive passion, on the other hand controls the person and, in this regard, I’d like to venture this definition –“it is the all-consuming desire to be fully engaged in the activity, to the extent of enduring pain, and suffering, resulting in injury to the self.” The injury could be physical, emotional, or psychological, or all three.
Such all-consuming passion could get the person into all kinds of trouble. The danger with passion is when it becomes an addiction, like gambling.
What happened to Kobe Bryant is an example of obsessive passion. You probably saw him on TV, playing basketball, pushing himself to the very limits of his endurance, nursing an injury to his Achilles tendon. It’s all because of his desire to keep on playing; “finish the game,” so to speak. This clearly fits the definition of obsessive passion.
Professor Vallerand remarked that when you are engaged in a passionate activity you should leave your ego at the door. A more straightforward explanation is that a person with obsessive passion has pride as big as a mountain, and would not allow himself to be seen by people as “beaten,” or, “down and out.”
Passion Has Morphed – From Pain to Fun
For a bit of background, before it became a subject of study by psychologists, passion was a direct reference to the suffering, and agony of Jesus Christ. The root word for passion is patoir, Latin for – “to endure and suffer.” This was later extended to include humans and their willingness to suffer and endure, i.e. to make sacrifices in order to achieve a goal.
Then of course there was the idea of passion as that intense feeling directed towards another.
Still later, as the interest in passion widened, it has come to mean being actively engaged in an activity that you enjoy, something that satisfies your craving for fun, leisure, entertainment; anything that makes life more meaningful and enjoyable.
So from pain and suffering, and then intense desire for another human being, passion has morphed into something enjoyable and pleasant – with limits of course.
Don’t Get Carried Away
So, whatever your passion is, it should be something that you should enjoy doing. It should be something that would give you a sense of fulfillment. It could be your hobby, or a talent you have, like playing an instrument, or singing.
May be it’s something you’ve always wanted to do, but never had the chance. Your life offers endless possibilities. Like me, I’ve never realized until very late that I could write poetry.
Still, you have to set limits. It is very possible for a harmonious passion to slide into an obsessive kind if unchecked. While it is true that it is necessary to make sacrifices in order to achieve your goals, you should know how and when to set your limits.
You would intuitively feel when it is time to stop doing something that will not bear fruits, and move on to the next. You can never force yourself to believe something is your passion when it is not. All that glitters is not gold.
The only failure is to fail to learn from failures. In our pursuit of success and happiness there are no failures, only lessons. And, if we fail to learn from our failures, then we truly failed.
It’s been said that Thomas A. Edison failed in his experiments ten thousand times before he succeeded. When people took him up on it he said – “I have not failed. I just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” And, as Randy Pausch said in The Last Lecture, “experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted.”
“Take your passion and make it happen.” Irene Cara (Flashdance)